Richard Kahn
TL;DR:
- Dating app fraud often involves fake profiles or chatbots designed to scam users.
- Fraudsters use these bots to push unsafe links, request money, or move victims off the platform.
- Signs include instant replies, repetitive or unnatural language, vague profiles, and sudden money requests.
- While some apps add verification tools, fraudsters adapt quickly, so users have to stay attentive.
What is Dating App Fraud
Dating app fraud happens when fake accounts or automated chatbots are used to trick users for profit. These bots may be built directly into dating platforms or deployed by fraudsters to scam users just looking for love.
Legally, dating sites can create “fake” profiles if customers agree to the terms and conditions. After an FTC ruling prohibited dating apps from creating profiles without consent, many companies started disclosing the practice in fine print. Most users don’t notice these clauses, which makes the profiles feel deceptive. In response to increased dating app fraud, the Online Dating Safety Act was created in 2023, and requires platforms like Match.com to notify users if they have interacted with accounts identified as fraudulent. In response, Match.com has proactively begun to implement fraud notification features into their platforms.
But while platform-created bots are questionable, the bigger threat comes from malicious chatbots used by fraudsters.
How Fraudsters Use Chatbots
Malicious chatbots are computer programs that can “talk” to dozens of potential victims at once. But their goal isn’t companionship, it’s manipulation. Fraudsters program these chatbots to push victims toward downloading malicious apps, move conversations to a different platform where scams are harder to track (think WhatsApp), request personal or financial information, or drop unsafe links containing malware.
Once the bot fails to achieve its goal, it typically ghosts the user and quickly finds another “match” to target.
Signs You’re Talking to a Bot
So, what are the telltale signs that you’re talking to a bot? You might be talking to a bot if your match:
- Replies instantly. Bots can message back within seconds at all hours.
- Repetitive answers. They rely on limited scripts, so you may see repeated phrases.
- Awkward conversation. Chatbots can’t hold a cohesive conversation and won’t answer your questions directly because they’re programmed to look at keywords and answer your messages accordingly.
- Requests for money or personal details. A major red flag for scams.
- Generic profiles. Few photos, vague bios, or even incomplete details.
- Links or app invitations. Bots often try to move you to unsafe platforms.
If you notice one or more of these warning signs, it’s best to disengage from the conversation immediately and report it.
Swipe Left on Bots
Despite industry efforts, dating app fraud remains a widespread problem. Platforms like Tinder and Bumble have introduced verification features, such as requiring linked social media accounts or photo verification, to limit fake profiles. But fraudsters are continually evolving their tactics.
For users, this means being extra careful. Don’t click on suspicious links, download unfamiliar apps, or share sensitive information with someone you just met online. Hackers will only stop when these scams stop making money.
So, next time you see a suspicious profile, be sure to swipe left.
